Really, in life we dont have much control over what happen to us, no matter how much we try to take charge. But thankfully, there are two choices in all circumstances, which we can be the master of (or the servant for).

Choice 1: Accept and move along
You accept that banging walls is a way of life and thus continue to bang walls to derive pleasure and ultimately happiness from having to survive all the banging of walls.

Choice 2: Reject and move away
You reject banging walls as a way of life and thus withdraw from banging walls to using bricks to crush toes or bungee jumping to derive pleasure and happiness .

Of the above, either ways is a mean to an end - an end that we desire. So to make the right choice and have the control that we are constantly harping on, we should really begin with the end in mind.

So, what is your end in mind?