lijun is a hard nut to crack but thankfully a good nutcracker comes in time...

"...like a little child who likes the smelly stinky bolster....although the child knows there's a new wonderful soft bolster, the child still hug tightly to the smelly stinky bolster...and so the stinky bolster is like part of growing up...to learn that the stinky bolster is no longer a good idea and give it up even though it's your fav companion...the earlier we learn it, the earlier we benefit from it cos ultimately if you grab the stinky bolster and cockroach come, nobody is gg to suffer except yourself - you're responsible for it."