1. Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the
idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending
great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for
others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump
into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or
would I rather be kind?” Wayne
Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. Give up your need for control. Be
willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you
and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones,
coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be.
Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much
better will that make you feel. “By
letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But
when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what
you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your
powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk. Oh
my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted
and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind
is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better
than that. “The
mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes
very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. Give up your limiting beliefs about
what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on,
you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the
wrong place. Spread your wings and fly! “A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea
that holds the mind” Elly
Roselle
6. Give up complaining. Give up
your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people,
situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make
you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to.
It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose
to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. Give up the luxury of criticism. Give up your need to criticize things, events
or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the
same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want
to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. Give up your need to impress others. Stop
trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It
doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that
you’re not, the moment you take of all your masks, the moment you accept and
embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. Give up your resistance to change. Change is
good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make
improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your
bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it. “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for
you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
10. Give up labels. Stop labeling those things, people or events
that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your
mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when
you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne
Dyer
11. Give up on your fears. Fear is
just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind.
Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place. “The only fear we have to fear, is
fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. Give up your excuses. Send them
packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we
limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and
working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves,
using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. Give up the past. I know, I
know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present
and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration
the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have.
The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about –
was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in
everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a
destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always
be present in the now.
14. Give up attachment. This is a
concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it
was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better
and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all
things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love
and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a
place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where
there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love
cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene.
You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without
even trying. A state beyond words.
15. Give up living your life to other people’s expectations. Way
too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their
lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives
according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends,
their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best
for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy
with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that
they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what
they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.
You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and
especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
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